Boundaries Face to Face : How to Have that Difficult Conversation You've been Avoiding - Cloud, Henry; Townsend, John (Grand Rapids, Mich. : Zondervan, 2003)
Part I : why you need to have that difficult conversation -- The conversation can change your life -- The benefits of a good conversation -- Part II : the essentials of a good conversation -- Be emotionally present -- Be clear about "you" and "I" -- Clarify the problem -- Balance grace and truth -- Stay on task -- Use the formula, when you do "a," I feel "b" -- Affirm and validate -- Apologize for your part in the problem -- Avoid "shoulds" -- Be an agent for change -- Be specific -- Differentiate between forgiving and trusting -- Part III : seeing how it's done -- Telling people what you want -- Making someone aware of something -- Stopping a behavior -- Dealing with counterattack and other problems -- Part IV : getting ready to have the conversation -- Why you need to get ready -- How to get ready -- Part V : having the conversation with people in your life -- With your spouse -- With someone you're dating -- With your kids -- With your parents -- With your adult children -- At work -- With people in authority.
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