Part One: Victims of a victimless crime -- My story -- This is not a fairy tale -- Up close and personal -- The great adventure begins -- The uncovering -- Used up and wasted -- Part Two: An affair of the mind -- how pornography destroys the spirit of a marriage -- What's the big deal? -- I take this woman -- Can't get no satisfaction -- An affair of the mind -- The girl of his dreams -- Let me entertain me -- Liar, liar, house afire -- Part Three: This is war, and there's no neutral ground -- how to survive the devastation -- The ground rules of engagement -- Learning how to get direction from God -- Telling yourself the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth -- Get real -- Let your conscience be your guide -- Dejunking your conscience -- Finding peace in the midst of the storm -- Upping the ante -- Becoming faith full -- Part Four: A little mop-up action -- Some final skirmishes and what to do with all the rubble -- Those flaming arrows -- help! I've been robbed -- Clearing out the rubble to make room for the joy -- Pushing past the pain -- A word from the battlefront -- Appendix A: Characteristics of an adult child from a dysfunctional home -- Appendix B: Annotated bibliography.